Beauty.

Slim nose.

Full lips.

Curvy.

Athletic.

There is no standard of beauty. Fact.

What you may see as the most mind blowing feature on someone could have the exact opposite effect from another person's perspective.

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" goes the old saying right? Why subject yourself to the wrong beholder and value yourself by their description of you?

Always remember: You are fearfully and wonderfully made 😘😊

Response to "Situationships"

Hey there! So due to my laptop crashing (twice!) I haven't been able to blog - however I'm trying out this blogging from my phone thing, but I can't post images :(

Anyways, here's a response to my last post, Situationships - enjoy it - I know I did haha!


Written by Iyebiye Olawuyi ❤️
Reasons you should not be in a situationship 
As a person who has been in over a million situationships (you know that’s exaggerated), I can totally say that a situationship is the worst relationship you could get yourself into. Below are the reasons for such an assertion.
It is a total waste of time. When people say they’ll gain experience and other stuff like that from it, they are only deceiving themselves. You don’t have to learn from your own experiences.
It always ends in heartbreak, especially for the girl. This is because when the guy is tired of her, especially as a result of use, he will find it very easy to walk away because he was not in any formal relationship before then.
No situationship anywhere in the world has ever ended in marriage. Take it or leave it.
After everything ends, the partners never remain as friends and if they do, they’ll always have hurts or grudges against each other no matter how small. One of my friends used to be in a situationship with a guy, now it’s over but almost everything the guy ever does just tends to get her upset.
When you are in such an arrangement (a situationship), you look cheap and also desperate.
You will never know where you stand when you are in such an arrangement. You might think he/she sees you as his/her girl/guy but he/she might just  be seeing you as just a friend, just a reading partner (hahahahahaha), a friend with benefits, a side chick/guy or just a spare part. lol 
You limit your vision. You don’t notice other people because you are too busy trying to  make your situationship work that you either fall into the friendszone with people you could have had profiting relationships with or you don’t even notice them at all. When you are in a situationship, you always think your partner is the best you can find anywhere and you are usually under a false believe that if you let him or her go, you will not find a better person.
You hinder your progress. When you are in a situationship, other guys/girls who see you from afar and want to get close to don’t come near because they feel you are in a relationship, whereas you are only on a roller coaster.
If you are in the kind of situationship where you are being asked out by your partner but you don’t want to say “yes” just yet because you are scared that he/she might break your heart if you both dated, but you do everything that people are dating do and you even cross the line and do stuff meant for married people, I want to tell you from experience that you are really gonna get your fingers burnt in the end. I don’t have the time to explain step by step how it works, but I just want you to know that you are heading for a terrible disaster.
NB: I want you to know that guys looooove situationships (though some girls do too). So if you and a guy are running such an arrangement and you are thinking he is gonna date or even marry you, (give me a few seconds, I need to laugh), you might just be all alone in dreamland or what my people call o.y.o. lmaoooooo 

SITUATIONSHIPS.

Yes I know it is not a real word; but with its rate of occurrence I think Oxford Dictionary’s next edition should seriously consider its insertion.

What is it? A “Situationship” is basically an undefined relationship.

“Let’s not spoil what we have with labels” – situationship.

“Let’s just have a good time and see where this goes” – situationship.

“What are we now?” “We are mere pencils in the hands of the Creator” – SITUATIONSHIP.

Sound familiar? This generation has more and more people who are unwilling to commit, who want to remain “baby boys/baby girls” for as long as possible; and so end up in situationships. They are not in a relationship but their emotions are. Don’t deceive yourself.

Even within the church situationships occur. You’re not sure if the person you are seeing is the “One” so rather than putting a label you get into a situationship – if the person is right you can upgrade to a relationship and if not you can pretend nothing happened. Win-win right? Wrong.

The human alchemy of emotions doesn’t work that way. It is okay to get it wrong sometimes; you learn and move on with new experiences that you can share with those coming up after you.

So, if you’re in a situationship today…you know what to do.

Emotions.

Happy… Sad... Angry.

Confused.

What do you feel? How do you feel?

Do you feel?

Of course you feel. Everyone feels. No matter how hardcore and emotionless you may think you are, so long as you belong to the human race, darling, you’ve got emotions. Whether you show them or not, is a whole different case entirely. Some people can be totally broken inside but on the surface appear to be as jovial as Eddie Murphy – it’s one of those mysteries of life I guess.

For anyone who has studied the brain before (yes, a geeky moment is coming up – I am a medical student after all lol) you would know that the brain is an intensely intricate organ. Every single of the billions of synapses in the brain has a purpose – including the limbic system, which is where the emotion center lies. If we did not need emotions why would a whole system of the brain be dedicated to its management?

Don’t be embarrassed to feel. It’s normal. It’s what makes you sane. So what if the way someone chews gum irks you? It doesn’t make you a bad person; if nothing in this life ever aroused a response from your limbic system would you really be living?

Trends.

No, not the thing on twitter that so many users aspire towards. I mean the general direction in which something is developing or changing. This “something” could be anything really; fashion, hairstyles, mannerisms, slang – anything.

So what about them? Sometimes trends are positive, like when they brought midi skirts back into vogue and it became ‘cool’ to dress modestly:

But at other times, they are not so good. Using illegal drugs, fornication… the list is endless.

My point: Deciding which trend to follow is vital. It’s not everything you see in a magazine or on Bella Naija’s fashion articles that you have to emulate. Learn to streamline the way you live and only pick up positive influences.

You don’t have to fit in.

Abortion.

Sensitive topic alert! This post is not intended to start an ethical debate – as you should already know – my blog: my rules.

So let’s get right into it; abortion can be defined as the termination of a pregnancy.

Termination.

Destruction.

Murder.

I’m not going to dwell on the various reasons as to why one would opt into having an abortion but rather I’ll focus on the act itself. By aborting a pregnancy, you would be stripping that life form of all the opportunities he/she could have had. No matter how the unborn child was formed, or who’s DNA it holds; he/she still deserves a chance at life on Earth.

The best way to form one’s morals is to put yourself on the receiving end of any action. How would you feel if you were killed before you ever had a chance to show the world who you are?

Food for thought.

Reality Check.

Not everyone will like you.

DEAL WITH IT.

I was trying to get an afternoon nap and this topic came to mind – so here I am! People often associate being a Christian with being a people pleaser or being a “yes-man” and it is not so.

“But let your yes be yes and your no be no” (Matt 5:37)

You don’t always have to do what others want you to do. You don’t always have to be who others want you to be either. Be who God wants you to be. Stop trying to please everyone!

Live at peace with all men, as far as it depends on you, but don’t go bending over backwards to please someone or dash your morals out of the nearest window either. Bill and Melinda Gates might be one of the world’s greatest philanthropists and yet there is most definitely someone that dislikes them and refuses to buy a Microsoft product. Does that stop them from being über-rich? Someone else will buy that laptop and the Gates’ lives will continue as normal.

So what’s the moral of this post? Do your best to live right, but if someone still doesn’t like you don’t sit their being baffled or get upset, after all, even Jesus had haters.

xo